Always be ready for everything in life and don’t expect the things to come with warning. Life is too short to practise every single thing before it happen and that’s why sometimes we goes with wrong decisions and end up with bad experiences.
When it comes down to it, as humans, we have almost identical DNA and not surprisingly, we share similar experiences and no human being can ever say that i have never committed any mistake or my every decision is perfect. then why we always feel so uncomfortable to share our bad experiences ? Yeah,I made mistakes and yes, I have the courage to say that because i know that situation is always different and life does not come with an instruction manual and not every time i could fix it up but atleast it may help others to make some better decisions.Maturity comes with experiences and not with age.The more you explore yourself and commit mistakes, more mature you became.
‘If you never tasted a bad apple, you would never appreciate a good apple’, because you have to experience life to understand life.
But you don’t have to learn life lessons the hard way. It would be senseless to do so every time when there is an easier alternative: Learn from other people’s lessons by truly believing that they apply to you. This is great because you can save your time, money and energy by learning lessons the easy way from others who have already gone wrong and learned them the hard way.
So, Here are some lessons that have changed the way I live :
1. THERE ARE NO SHORTCUTS TO ANY PLACE WORTH GOING –
Never try to take shortcuts for any path. maybe you will reach to your destination and it will save your time too but you will skip so many places in between. Journey is more important than path.
2. DON’T JUST LIVE, FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE-
Look..it’s simple! you have only 2 options in your life…LIVING OR EXISTING. Just ask yourself, who do you want to be remembered for? Don’t do the things just for the sake of doing it. find your happiness in your work and then do it. Don’t just exist, find your life and live it before it’s too late !
3. DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL-
Sometimes the person who avoids you or ignore your presence doesn’t want to ignore you actually, it is just a matter of their priorities. When you stop taking things personally, you’ll feel better and your relationships will improve dramatically. Even in cases when it is personal, your life will be better if you treat it as if it wasn’t. If you don’t believe me, I won’t take it personally.
4. FORGIVE EVERYONE FOR EVERYTHING-
when someone apologies for their mistakes don’t judge them, just forgive them. No matter how bad the person is or how much hurt you have experienced, just forget it. once you forget it, you are free. once you forgive them, they are free.
5. FOLLOW YOUR HEART-
Don’t think twice! Don’t ask anyone for advice and don’t listen others for their suggestions they are not living your life. only you know yourself better than anyone else does so don’t lie with yourself.
Life is like a road, there are bumps, there are cracks, there are road blocks. People change. Feelings fade. Friends leave. Lovers become strangers. you will be judged.
In 3 words i can sum up everything i have learned about life – LIFE GOES ON !
So,Live a life true to yourself and you don’t need to regret for anything.
Hi guys and happy Monday! Last week at home for me before I go back to school… eeeeeep!
Anyone else get tons of snow this weekend? I left the house once Saturday to workout but that was it. The roads were pretty dang bad!
Anyways, let’s just into today’s post because it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot.
No regrets, just lessons learned.
I don’t care who you are, we all have regrets. We all wish we did things certainly at one point or another. Or we could get a time machine and go back to change how we acted in a certain situation/how that situation played out.
Flashback to about a month-ish ago. I was driving and I literally just SCREAMED so friggin loudly because that feeling of regret him me so hard. I just got so mad at myself for letting things in my life spiral so out of control. “If I did this differently, this wouldn’t have happened. Or if I stayed single, I wouldn’t have felt this way, etc. etc. etc.” The feelings of regret and frustration with myself hit me so awfully hard during that car ride. It started with frustration, but it eventually led to tears. Because it hurt me! And that’s okay to admit. I was hurt and my emotions were all over the place.
A few weeks later looking at pictures from the summer, this feeling hit me even harder. It sucked seeing pictures from before this all happened. And again, those “what if” questions kept itching their way back into my brain. “What if I did this differently? What if I spoke up when I so desperately wanted to?” You all know how detrimental those what if questions are. They hit so close to home. And they drive you crazy, because there simply is no answer to those questions. So we sit and think about them, we sit and dwell on them. And that is what I did all that night.
It wasn’t until the end of December where I had a big realization. There is nothing to regret from what happened these past couple months. Sure, it sucked. Sure, it hurt a whole lot. The depression, the tears, losing myself… it all hurt. But I learned SO much from it all. I learned that I can never settle in a relationship, and I learned how I don’t want to be treated. I learned what I do value in a relationship. I learned better coping skills for my depression. I learned that life can throw you some pretty crappy moments, but that God will never give us more than we can handle. And I could handle it. I’ve handled hard times before, and I handled this challenging time just fine. I got through, and I came out a whole lot stronger.
“This is where I start my comeback. I will spend no more time asking God why doors have been closed because I’ll be too busy praising God for doors that are about to open.”
“Train yourself to find the blessing in everything.”
We need to train ourselves to find the blessing in every single obstacle life throws at us. Because if we don’t, if we have that “why me” attitude, we are not going to grow.
I was talking to my friend Jimmy Saturday night, and I wanted to share something from our convo because it was a pretty awesome one. (but they are always awesome with him!)
And I don’t want people to feel pity for me. Bc I truly understand why god put this hardship in my life and I’m okay with it. Because flowers get stepped on but they still grow after. And that’s just like me. I got stepped on a whole lot these past two months. But here I am blooming despite all that.
We are going to get stepped on in life and we are going to get bruises. We are going to get wounds and we are going to hurt. We can’t keep picking at those wounds or they are never going to heal. We can’t keep dwelling on those hard times and getting mad that they happened to us. Instead, we must embrace the difficulties life gives us. We must embrace God’s plan and even though it isn’t always so easy to do so; we must fully accept that in the midst of challenging times, we always do learn some pretty amazing lessons.
“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you. They’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” Amen to that!!
That’s it for today guys. Thank ya for always letting me share what’s on my mind. And for reading it! Love you all and hoping you have the best Monday. <3
Let me know what you think in the comments too! If you can relate/if you have felt the same way at one point of your life/etc. Always love hearing what y’all have to say!